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Split Pea Goop
There's no recipe for life, and I'm in the thick of it.
Created on 2004-01-05 07:31:17 (#1793071), last updated 2008-10-15
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Basic Info| Name: | kaphine |
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| Location: | Boston, Massachusetts, United States |
BioI'm a recently (legally!) married queer girl, trying to stay that way. Which means I won't be leaving Massachusetts any time soon.
Why "Spit Pea Goop?"
It was winter when I started my journal. I had been taking time to put up pots of hot winter comfort food. Thick, stick-to-your-ribs stuff. A recent batch of split pea soup turned out much too thick and gloppy to be called soup, and was quickly dubbed "split pea goop." It became a metaphor for working things out without any instructions, for making it up as I go along.
Although my relationship wasn't new, I still found myself reflecting on, and really still discovering what makes a relationship work. I still am. Many of my earliest entries are all about the continued discovery of the us that results from adding me to her. It's alchemy. 1 + 1 = 3 (or maybe only 2.436). And about the little frustrations come from anytime people share space, no matter how much they like, love, respect and want each other.
I despirately want to someday "get it right." All of it. My relationship (marriage!), my job, my bank account, my recipe for split pea soup. I strongly suspect, that it will be a life-long process of getting it better, occasionally getting some things right, messing up, and apologizing. Lots of apologizing.
Why "Spit Pea Goop?"
It was winter when I started my journal. I had been taking time to put up pots of hot winter comfort food. Thick, stick-to-your-ribs stuff. A recent batch of split pea soup turned out much too thick and gloppy to be called soup, and was quickly dubbed "split pea goop." It became a metaphor for working things out without any instructions, for making it up as I go along.
Although my relationship wasn't new, I still found myself reflecting on, and really still discovering what makes a relationship work. I still am. Many of my earliest entries are all about the continued discovery of the us that results from adding me to her. It's alchemy. 1 + 1 = 3 (or maybe only 2.436). And about the little frustrations come from anytime people share space, no matter how much they like, love, respect and want each other.
I despirately want to someday "get it right." All of it. My relationship (marriage!), my job, my bank account, my recipe for split pea soup. I strongly suspect, that it will be a life-long process of getting it better, occasionally getting some things right, messing up, and apologizing. Lots of apologizing.
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affordable health care, all things swank, antihistamines, art, autumn in new england, beautiful places, being a shiksa, being healthy (i wish), being silly, bento, birthday cake, body glitter, bust magazine, cannon beach or, cel phone envy, celebrations, chocolate, coffee, deluxe town diner, dessert, diet coke, driving, edgefield, email from friends, fabulous shoes, finding the humor, food, fresh clean sheets, getting it right (sometimes), good beer, hello kitty, honeymoons, i-5, ibuprofen, ipod envy, kissing, kitsch, knitty.com, legal same-sex marriage, living flowers, london underground, making stuff, marriage equality, massachusetts sjc, mbta, mt. auburn cemetery, mta, music, my cats, my g.f., naps, non-bulk email, nostalgia, peet's mocha freddo, pez dispensers, poetry, portland (oregon), puppies, reading, readymade magazine, rodney the parking fairy, seoul food, slam poetry, sleep, soundbites, space heaters warming toes, subway systems, sudafed, tacky eiffel tower souveniers, target, terry gross, the bagdad, the first crocus, the first snow, the pacific northwest, thrift score, thrifting, tide pools, travelling, vacations
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Birendra Sainik Military College - Kathmandu, Kathmandu, NepalLady Lumley's School - Pickering, England - North Yorkshire, United Kingdom
Turkey Creek Middle School - Turkey Creek, KY
Universidad Juarez Autónoma de Tabasco - Villahermosa, Tabasco, Mexico
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